When I was a young girl, I was exposed to all types of negative things. While some of these events I was able to overcome, one was not as easy as I expected and that was my thoughts. While at the moment we may not recognized this but, those little words that are spoken to us as children can determine who we are as adults. There has been countless studies that support this notion however, it was not available to my family. I would like to think that if they were aware of the damage that they caused, they would have done things differently. Instead, the cycle of verbal abuse continued from generation to generation.
The way that I thought about myself made it very difficult for me to gain and maintain meaningful relationships. I can honestly say that I do not have childhood friends that I can reminisce on the ups and downs with without causing me some sort of emotional distress. I do, however, have childhood acquaintances that found great pleasure in my hardship and difficulties which was a façade of meaningful friendships. Now these people are not bad but my thinking was. I do not blame them at all for this because they were allowed in my circle because of my negative way of thinking. I thought that I was not worthy and therefore attracted that energy to my life. All of that began to shift once I realized the power in positive thinking.
So, what are really the benefits of thinking positively? Well, I am glad that you asked. Positive thoughts have the abilities to do the following:
- They give you more confidence
- You will have a better quality of life
- You will gain better relationships with people
- You will be more successful
Your thoughts will literally change the narrative. What you believe, you will literally achieve. If you think poorly of yourself then, you are less likely to come and put your best foot forward. You go into a project believing that you are going to win, or be successful, there is no limit to where you will go.
There is a thing that I do with our boys every time they bring home a grade that they are not proud of. I ask them, “What did you learn from this? What could you have done differently? What will you do in the future?” I ask these questions because it removes the negativity from their minds and immediately begin to focus on the positive from this situation. We all could take a little lesson from this example. Life is nothing more than an exam. If we continue to make the same mistakes, we will get the same outcomes. However, when we change our thinking to a pretty thought, we begin to see the beauty and make lemonade out of our lemons.